#Myblessedlife- THE FAKE FACEBOOK LIFE

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We see this all the time pictures of people that are posting up their vacations, their new cars, Posting pictures of them every single place that they go with a smile. And they take a lot of pictures while you’re out having a great time with your friends and your family your stopping every every couple of minutes ,you’re taking pictures right then and there and you’re putting them on social media.

Just explain to me how exactly you’re enjoying the The moment that you are in?
I have a friend that takes pictures of the meal she’s about to eat, of us when we sit down to eat it ,of us when we were walking to where we have to go .In an hour of being with her she must have taken at least 10 pictures and posted them on her social media page. In the middle of each conversation we were having it was kind of annoying for her to say ” wait..hold on let me get a pic really quick”. And even though I did have a nice time with her it took away from well basically anything we’re talking .

I understand Facebook is great for sharing your activities with your friends and family who are also with you and those who are far away anyone a way to communicate with them all the time …I get it. Then you have the show offs. Do I really need to know the you have a 6 bedroom house? And when you’re posting these pictures on Facebook while you are in Italy do I really need to know? Not that I’m gonna go breaking into your house ..but may be somebody else will?
I see hashtags#Ilovemylife#I am blessed#thisisthelife. If you love your life so much why do you need to remind yourself and remind everyone around you? I mean, It’s kind of silly don’t you think? To me when I see people doing this it’s almost like they’re showing off to somebody and they want to send a message to somebody that may be they let go in the past or they want to send the message to somebody to let them know how wonderful and successful they are now and they’re reading all of this nonsense.

Another thing I see a lot of on social media are relationships that are Like snow white and Prince charming on Facebook. I see these couples kissing, holding hands, traveling, celebrating anniversaries, going out to dinner, but the reality of a lot of these cases are not what they appear to be. For instance I have this one friend who completely hates her husband and she is constantly calling and texting me telling me all of his faults and she tells this to other people as well but on Facebook they are the happiest couple ever. She’s in the process of talking to a divorce lawyer but on social media she writes things like how much she loves him and how people thought they will never stay together this long… She’s even talked to me about moving to another country to get away from him so why put up a persona of something that you’re not?
I’m not saying that everyone on social media does this but the fact that people are doing this and we know what’s really going on it’s a bit disturbing makes me wonder how real that person is and makes me really think about why on Earth are they being so fake? If you want people to think that your life is absolutely superb and wonderful then just stay off of social media and let people wonder don’t write a bunch of lies and bull shit on there because it makes you look really silly when there are people out there who know the real you.

Another woman on social media puts pictures of her and her family under vacations. It’s great that she’s on vacation But when her house is broken into my summer and investigation determined add it was Facebook related.
It’s almost like a popularity contest in high school to see who has the most friends and who goes the most places and who has more and  travels and whose life is better whose life is more blessed.

I’m very private on social media and I don’t put those things up.. I do put a couple of things here and there but I like keeping to myself.  I don’t put every sum of things I do on social media.
Social media is a wonderful amazing thing to utilize its just funny to see The purpose that some people use it for

Why do you know this this about the fakeness on social media?

 

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CONTROLLING MOTHERS

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Overbearing mothers ,a blessing and a curse. You love them and appreciate them but sometimes they have no sense of boundries.
You Try to make them Happy with everything you do. Everything you have done. Every move you have made in your existence was to make them happy. Yet, Still they’re never satisfied. It’s because they can never be, never will be satisfied with anything that you do.

My mother was so overbearing and protective, So over protective that she  Did not allow me- a college graduate to leave the house until I was married.

And I really wanted to leave that house so of course, I was in love what do I do?

It’s completely sad how a mother can dictate a child’s life even as an adult. It’s a not so rare form of mental abuse that exists in so many more people then admitted. Abused as children abused as Adults when does this abuse end?

Is your mother overbearing? Is that a form of abuse? Is it OK for her to tell you how to raise your children? Is it OK for her to tell you to come on by 10:00 p.m. when you 25? Is it OK for her to choose your career in your life? what you gonna do? what path you’re gonna live? Who you gonna love?

Is this not abuse? There’s A-line that a mother should not cross. A mother will always be a mother, a mother will always see her babies as her babies.

But these children do grow up and fall in love have families of their own and this overbearing mother can contribute and be part of the family but when it gets to the point that she’s dictating your life when you’ve already established your own life there’s a huge problem.

It’s an abuse it’s not knowing when to stop. And of course we love our parents unconditionally no matter what kind of crazy shit they have put us through. We all want our mommies and our daddy’s, we wanna be loved and there are times yes we want to be children again.

What if your mother had the keys to your house and she can come in whenever she feels that she wants to? However, you have given her these keys to come to your house if there is an emergency or you need help with something. These emergency set of keys isnot for your mother to come in walking to your house whenever she pleases. What if you are their intimate with someone? what if you’re walking around naked? What if you just wanna be alone and you don’t want her to do this? Is it wrong?

It’s your mother being overbearing and it’s your mother letting you know that she still has control over your life as an adult. Your babies will always be your babies but you have to let your babies make decisions and grow and you have to learn to give them space. If not they’re gonna grow up and resent you for it in find a place to vent where the world can possibly listen

DATING AFTER 40

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Which one of you has not made any Mistakes in the last Decade?
Perhaps you married your mistake and then years down-the-line realized that it was a major regret?

Some people arent even married a year ,ready to Call it quits.
Time goes by the days the years and before you know it…. you’re 40 your single… and back available on the dating scene.

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All the jokes you told in your 20’s about 40 year olds and their cats being home alone on Friday nights are looking all too realistic right now.

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If you have children they’re getting older they’re hanging out with their friends and doing their own thing.
If you have friends some of them are married some of them are divorced and the rare wonderful fun few are single and you see how they’re living their lives and having a great time . Going out and having fun .THAT becomes a little harder when you are a single parent but it is possible with the right preparation , The spontaneous impulses can’t really be there.

Is it really that bad starting fresh and dating at 40?

There’s plenty of people after 40 years old who are newly dating. AND probly having the most fun may have in years by doing so!

I give credit to those of you who stuck through their marriages through hard times and bad,the cheating ,whatever it was that made it work. Some marriages are strong and there some people who just stay for the kids or stay because they want to prove they can say with somebody for 20 plus years. Then there are the people who are actually happy in the marriages and much kudos to you guys!!!

40 is the new 30, it’s not like what it used to be in the 80’s when you were 40 ,you were going on 65 years old.

Everything’s done online the dating sites- meeting people , which for me can make it a bit challenging because I like their face-to-face contact but we’re living in a new era ,a new world.

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At 40 people are ” supposedly” more mature and they have a good idea about how they want to live their lives what they want to do and who they are.
Dating after 40 can be an adventure, go for it!!!

And let us know if you are dating and can make any dating site recommendations.

I’d love to hear your experience of dating after 40!

The Absence of Love

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Everyone has been hurt by a love. It Doesn’t matter how beautiful you are inside or out. It doesn’t matter how much you have done for that person. Some people hurt others in loving relationships maliciously while others hurt because that’s all they know and it comes as 2nd nature.

Can someone who has been hurt ever be the same when it comes to loving again?
What if that same person who has been hurt by a love also grew up hurt by their parents.
It’s a psychological spiral and trying to figure out where we go wrong in love and a what point of our Childhoods where we affected in order to love the way we love as adults?
What if we never felt Loved as a child ? What if we felt that our parents never loved Us?
What if we grew up in a household with no affection never a hug never positive encouragement?
What if we grew up with the absence of love?

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Is it possible as adults to learn to love without ever experiencing it as a child?
Whatever it was whatever way I grew up all I know is that I hug my children everyday And I tell them that I love them. It’s an automatic as soon as they come home from school as soon as they leave to school we tell each other we love each other we hug and that is a second nature.
We hug when we watch movies we hug when good things happen we hug when badd things happen. We show affection we express ourselves and our little family we feel love.
I have an unconditional undying love for my children and right now I feel as though this is the only love I need in my life.
Although there are other people in my life that I do love I feel as though I’m very protective of myself and perhaps it is the way I grew up.
I don’t wanna be hurt by love. And I don’t wanna hurt anyone return.
I don’t know exactly what will happen in a few years regarding my feelings towards love.
I know that I’m capable of itJust like many other people out there are capable of it and may be afraid of it?
We all have the love of God and his angels protecting us at all times. I am a strong believer in a higher power.
I do know I don’t wanna be in the absence of love
After all isn’t this what everyone is looking for?

My son remembered the day he was born

If anyone else had told me this I wouldn’t believe it. I would think that an adult told the kid to say this and I would just laugh.
But this is some crazy stuff that my very own son at 2 years old repeated to me.
We Were down in Chinatown parked on a busy street. I was in the passenger side and my son was in the back buckled in his car seat.
He was 2 years old he always love to talk and sing, he was always an over all happy baby and hes a happy child now.
What came out of his mouth that day still to this day just has the hairs on my arms standing up.

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He told me that he remembers swimming in the water where it was so more and everything was nice and then one day the water was disappearing and he felt like he was drowning but then he saw a light and the light was so pretty so he was swimming towards the light and he said it was really hard to get help out of the opening but finally he came out and he saw me.
Was this really has 1st memory?

In my life ,this is the most beautiful thing I have ever heard .

I’ve always felt like my babies or crystal Children. They are part of the Indigo babies.
Now I truly believe that the babies to hold that memory of the day they are born.

Don’t cry tonight

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Don’t cry tonight… It’s dark ..its late it’s cold I’m tired. The day has been so long. And now I sit here all alone and wondering of the  Should of,could  Ofs..when is this all too late.

I need to keep doing the right things and just swim myself away from the wrong things, I’m overwhelmed I’m weary And I’m not done with bath time checking homework and preparing for the next day.

I wanna cry tonight but really I just don’t have the time to do it

 

Losing my Halloween spirit

20181005_194556Not obligated to buy presents no need to listen to family bickering over an enormous amount of food that you be eating for the next week.

Halloween has always been my favorite holiday .You can dress up and be anything that you want to be .That character for the day and everyone around you is somebody else dressed up as somebody else.

I always looked forward to it, getting costumes for the kids taking them trick or treating until they could barely walk anymore than giving away all that candy to others. It was so much fun.

The goblins ,the witches, the superheroes, the princesses,The costumes I couldn’t figure out. The laughter and the entire magical mysteriousness of Halloween I just loved it.

Now that my daughter is 16 years old she still going Trick or Treating and I went with her last year and my 10 year old son. But now they’re going with their group of friends and why would they want me trailing behind them?
I even asked a friend to borrow her kids but she had other plans. Maybe I’m just going to this thing where the kids are getting bigger and something as simple as taking them trick or treating has ended because of their ages. They’re still going I just think I need to give them their space and let them go in their group of friends without an adult trailing behind them. And it’s just here in the neighborhood and it’s a big group. I’m hoping that I can change my own mind and tell myself they still need me to trail behind them because anything can happen on Halloween. I’m hoping that later on I can throw on one of my masks and get outside because I do love Halloween and I don’t want to lose that love for Halloween.