Not obligated to buy presents no need to listen to family bickering over an enormous amount of food that you be eating for the next week.

Halloween has always been my favorite holiday .You can dress up and be anything that you want to be .That character for the day and everyone around you is somebody else dressed up as somebody else.

I always looked forward to it, getting costumes for the kids taking them trick or treating until they could barely walk anymore than giving away all that candy to others. It was so much fun.

The goblins ,the witches, the superheroes, the princesses,The costumes I couldn’t figure out. The laughter and the entire magical mysteriousness of Halloween I just loved it.

Now that my daughter is 16 years old she still going Trick or Treating and I went with her last year and my 10 year old son. But now they’re going with their group of friends and why would they want me trailing behind them?
I even asked a friend to borrow her kids but she had other plans. Maybe I’m just going to this thing where the kids are getting bigger and something as simple as taking them trick or treating has ended because of their ages. They’re still going I just think I need to give them their space and let them go in their group of friends without an adult trailing behind them. And it’s just here in the neighborhood and it’s a big group. I’m hoping that I can change my own mind and tell myself they still need me to trail behind them because anything can happen on Halloween. I’m hoping that later on I can throw on one of my masks and get outside because I do love Halloween and I don’t want to lose that love for Halloween.

The million dollar question. Why isn’t there ever a concrete answer to this???

Especially if you’re asking your significant other it just spins inside of a endless realm.

I used to make something similar to an all you can eat buffet because of my picky little eaters. If they didn’t want what I made for dinner I want me sure to make them whatever it was they wanted because I wanted them to eat something.

Little did I know I was such a punk!!!

Now, that they are a little bit older and my son is 11, my daughter 16 and if a
I make something And they don’t want to eat it then my words of wisdom to them are “oh well then starve”.
The question is no longer what do you want for dinner on my end it’s this is what I’m Making for dinner you either eat or you starve.

It’s like mourning a death. You’re with someone all these years sharing your life sharing your deepest love everything your life your kids your money or house what’s yours is his was his as yours. It’s crazy how life can change from one day to the next. It’s crazy how life can change gradually and not even notice. When I was going through a divorce I thought I was going to die I thought my world was coming to an end at once how my supposed to do this
All by myself? I thought I’ve been with this man for over 11 years and we have 2 children together the this is not the what happens to me?

So here it is the end of my world what do I do?

I kept going I surpassed at work a bettered myself I took care of the kids he didn’t bother to come around after the divorce much till he eventually completely stopped seeing them. yes, I became a single mother over night I prayed more I prayed harder . I learned to never judge anyone. God can give you so much the same way God can take it all away. I went through this in 2009 Almost 10 years ago. Looking back the 1st 2 years were very hard. Especially since he walked away from a three-year-old and a 7 year old. He left us with our apartment in foreclosure he left me with $200 in the bank and an empty refrigerator.
By the grace of God I made life work. I didn’t have any time to really cry over it I had to wake up I had a go to work I had to take the kids to school I had to give them baths ,feed them, teach them so and there was very little time to look back on everything and be sad about it I had to keep going or would fall apart.
I adjusted to my new life after a while. I found a life without him. I kept the kids super busy in all kinds of activities with all kinds of friends all kinds of family and never left their sides.

Ladies and gentlemen divorce is not the end of the world it is the beginning of a new life a better life …a happier one

Drop the kids off at school, Nascar to work, Do double the work In a crunch time forget about taking lunch just swallow something at your desk. It’s almost time to get the kids hurry up you don’t want them in the late Room. I have to keep the job I have to pay the bills I’m a single mother no ones donating money to me. The very little amount their biological father gives barely feeds them. The life that I balance is a life with my children, school functions ,parent teacher night homework cooking cleaning that’s my life plus a 40 hour week job.
How do single moms do it? Obviously we don’t all have the money to pay for child care. Balancing all this is just a mental ability that a woman needs to possess to not drive yourself crazy because this could make you crazy. Time for going out with friends hanging out for me? When? I’m lucky if I see my friends every couple of months. I’m tired all the time I’m budgeted all the time. I’m trying to get through homework and make sure I have enough for the bills for next month. Single mothers don’t have that luxury of having a partner in saying” here you go here’s half of the rent let me cook you dinner let me do laundry tonight.’ A single mother Is a one woman army. How do you balance having a life?
You make your kids your life. When they get older maybe you can date. If you have a better solution I would love to hear it from you. Because Yes I want to go on girl trips with my girlfriends I wanna hang out at least just once a month so I don’t lose my mind.
BUT don’t mistake what I’m saying I love doing things with my kids but I’m surprised my friends have stuck with me this far because I can’t always see them and go out with them I can’t travel with them I couldn’t even attend one of my best friends weddings in California because of child care because of money reasons. So how am I balancing it? I’m just doing what I have to do in making sure that the kids are always good and that is my life that’s the life of a single mother Who always puts her children 1st.

OK ,so some of us already went through those “Terrible Two’s”. The toddler years the tension ,throwing themselves in the streets crying while us moms looking around in pure embarrassment. You know what I’m talking about!!
When you just can’t wait For those God-Awful temper tantrums to end. You can’t wait till they hurry up and grow up and get out of this stage. Trust me when they turn into teenagers you going to miss those terrible two’s, you’re going to wish that you were in the middle of the street with them asking them to get up off the floor once you experience the “Terrible Teens”.
I wanted my babies to stop their temper tantrums, but now the teenage years with the eye rolling ,the teeth sucking , the constant worry about the opposite sex , college,peer pressure and the over all never ending hormonal crisis.

It’s not easy raising a teenager as a single mother. You’re on your own as a single parent there’s no way that you can look over your shoulder for help. No one to help side with you when you’re trying to get a message across to your teen. There is noone there for me to play good cop bad cop.. I have to be a combination of them both almost making me look like I have a schizophrenia bipolar crazy personality by being these 2 people,nice one minute and just mean the next.

Being a single mom has got to be one of the most difficult things on Earth to do. I cried so many nights so many days on my way to work at work at home walking in the street in the supermarket just couldn’t hold back tears just thinking of my stress and how unfair that their deadbeat dad just dismissed his responsibilities. I have to do everything all alone all the time.

And now teen years in the process I am living in constant edge. I don’t want my kids to choose the wrong path and automatically think any little mistake that they make people will say it’s because they’re from the household of a single mom. I don’t want that stigma on them and all of them to be a statistic so I try super hard and I’m always tired because it to too much and just always feel so weary and nothing is ever enough.
They are good kids ,I don’t have much to complain about . I guess in some weird way I am doing it all alone in its turning out really well.
Sometimes a single moms we feel judged and inferior and we feel as though our kids are being frowned upon. Just know that you’re not the only one feeling like that more than likely,It’s not the case of what is actually really going on.
Single moms are superheroes and we can do anything.

Thanks for joining me!

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton